fertility investigations

Immediately after the ectopic I relaxed. I thought, "if we have done it once, we can do it again!". Here the curse of the forum strikes. I noticed that a lot of people who had ectopics fell pregnant again really quickly (within months). I convinced myself that it will happen soon and if that it didn't, it would not happen at all.

4 months later,and nothing happened. That 4th month, I was late and thought we had done it. Sadly it was just the case that my period was late. Tears ensued and my poor fiance (we got engaged September 2010, 9 months after we had started trying) by then had run out of things to say. It was 10 months since we had started trying and I had become a different person. Crying at the drop of a hat, moody and sometimes withdrawn.

He insisted that I go to the doctors for tests and so I did. My hormones showed that I was ovulating, his sperm analysis was fine. I had no signs of disease, my remaining tube was clear (I had the dreaded HSG- oh how undignified).

I very much appreciate the NHS, and the fact that it is free (they were excellent at treating my ectopic) but I spent a lot of time waiting around in waiting rooms. If you make an appointment with the hospital for a certain time, it is highly unlikely that you will get seen at that time. Usually I had to wait between 40-60 minutes. When I finally got in to see the doctor, he would talk at me for 5 minutes, then I would be dismissed.

At my last appointment (February 2011), he said that as they could find nothing wrong with us, we have "unexplained infertility" and I am being referred for IVF.

So here we are, I have been referred for IVF. The list in my area is around 2 years apparently. My first appointment in on the 23rd May. I expect them to ask us to complete a form and to tell us that we will be waiting around for 2 years.